Most people (unfortunately sometimes also me) are constantly blaming external factors for their failures. To be honest, it’s hard not to do so.
Personal responsibility is a hard thing and admitting that only you are responsible for all your failures (but also successes) is much harder than simply accusing someone else.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. — Wayne Dyer
However, if you find yourself accusing other people too often, you should definitely think about shifting your mind.
A strong mindset means taking full responsibility for your actions and accepting that only you are in charge of everything that is happening in your life. This is the base for any kind of further personal development, growth, and success in your life.
And yes, sometimes we need to cope with unexpected situations that happen. And yes, sometimes we can’t change situations and end up being in a bad situation even though it is not our fault. However, we can always decide how we react to it. No matter what happens, you can choose whether you are accepting and growing through the situation or if you spend your energy on being mad.
According to quantum physicists, about 60.000 to 70.000 thoughts are crossing our minds every day.
What’s terrifying is that most of these thoughts are negative and repeating themselves each and every day.
Yet, it is so important which thoughts we have and how we spend our mental energy.
If you find yourself thinking about horror scenarios and things that could go wrong regularly, you should make changes in your daily routines.
A strong, self-reliant mindset will boost your confidence and help you to reach your goals with ease.
Oftentimes it’s not even that hard to stay focused on the positive.
Here are the two tiny habits that help me to shift my focus and stay positive throughout the day:
Keep a journal
Journaling is my #1 tool when it comes to fixing my mindset and getting myself into a strong state. There are tons of varieties on how to journal and what to write about.
You could write a success journal documenting all your achievements. This is amazing because we often forget about our accomplishments and focus on our weaknesses. A success journal will help you to shift your mind and stay focused on your results.
Another option is a gratitude journal. This is for documenting all the things that you are grateful for in your life. Too often we forget about our blessings and get caught in seeing everything that is still missing in our lives. A gratitude journal is a great way to shift your focus and see all the positive aspects of your life.
However, what I personally prefer and also do every day is a general journal. In that case, there is no specification for what you write about. You simply write down all your thoughts and everything that is crossing your mind. I do it as part of my morning routine and love it. Mostly, my journal entry includes affirmations, things I am grateful for and also things that I am proud of.
Set little reminders
Oftentimes even if we keep a journal in the morning, do our meditation and set our daily intentions, throughout the day we get confronted with difficulties and it becomes hard to focus on the positive. However, you can set little reminders to stay positive and focus on your goals.
For example, you can set silent alarms on your phone, which remind you of your goals, your favorite motivational quotes, etc.
Imagine being in a stressful situation and suddenly seeing your big goals on your display. This will help you to focus on the important and not waste energy on unimportant stuff.
What you can also do is reminding yourself to be positive and think about your intentions every time you enter a new room. Each time you are crossing a doorframe, remind yourself to shift your focus to the positive and empower yourself.
These two tips might sound super simple yet they are as effective. Once you start doing these two things daily, you will quickly see results and realize that you will spend your days with much more positivity.
Let me know if you are using those strategies and how they work for you! :)